Why Change is So Hard


Let’s face it - we all resist change.

We all cling to the status quo even if the status quo isn’t all that great.  Why?

It is easy - we ALL fear change….  We fear the unknown.

We all have a thermostat in our brain that want to keep us in our comfort zone in order to avoid anything that might be painful.  Our comfort zone keeps us stuck at a certain level that we get used to,  even if we were unhappy or feel stuck.

Yet,  despite the terrible price we pay,  we don’t leave the comfort zone.  Why is that?

Why do we resist change even though we know in our hearts that change is inevitable?  Because the moment we step out of the familiar,  we are in the unknown.  We are also help there by our need for immediate gratification.  The comfort zone makes us feel good in the moment.

Some of us get to a point in life where we think ‘ life is good…..I like where I am….so STOP it right here’.  It is easy to think “Who cares what the future consequences will be?’

The problem is,  you’ll eventually have to pay the consequence of experiencing the worse pain of all – the knowledge that you have wasted your life!

Accepting the fact of life that life DOES change whether we want it to or not is the first step in helping yourself to accept the other fact - all change is NOT bad.

Oh,  I sure admit that change can sometimes be scary.  Some changes can disrupt your sleep pattern,  make you overeat and wreak havoc with your personal relationships,  among other things.

But if we learn to look at change as the inevitable excitement of life and if we quit being so fearful of the unknown and learn to delay instant gratification,  we can avoid a lot of the stress and anxiety that change throws our way.

Having the courage to go into the unknown and act in the face of fear allows you to tap into limitless possibilities.

Accepting change with a positive outlook can make even the most drastic changes easier.   Drawing on your own past experiences of change can also help.  Maybe you thought the worst would surely happen when there have been changes in your life in the past,  only to discover that the change actually made life better in some ways.

It’s true that sometimes there’s no apparent silver lining to major life changes,  but it is also true that all of life’s changes are not BAD,  either.

Do not struggle with change,  rather accept it and be open to it and  free yourself from the fears that are holding you back from achieving what you want in life!


10 Things You Must Tell Yourself Today


#1:  I am fighting hard for the things I want most

*  The longer you have to wait for something,  the more you will appreciate it when it finally arrives.

*  Most great things don’t come easy,  but they are worth waiting for and fighting for.

#2:  I am taking action now

*  Many great things can be done in a day if you don’t always make that day tomorrow!

#3:  I am focusing on the next positive step

*  The future holds nothing but endless potential.

*  There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.

#4:  I am proud to wear my truth

*  How you see yourself means everything.

*  To be beautiful means to live confidently in your own skin.

#5:  I have a lot to smile about

*  Happiness is not a result of getting something you don’t have,  but rather of recognizing and appreciating what you do have.

#6:  I am making the best of it

*  Everything you go through grows you.

*  Amazing things can and do happen when you least expect them.

#7:  I am letting go of yesterday’s stress

*  Leave behind the stress,  the drama and the worries.  Lay this day to rest.

*  Tomorrow is about hope,  new possibilities and the opportunity to make a better day.

#8:  There is enough time today to do something I love doing

*  You will find happiness in doing the things you love to do –  set time aside to do it.

#9:  I am priceless in someone’s  eyes

*  Focus on those who love and accept you for who you are and shower them with the love and kindness they deserve.

*  Cherish the people who saw you when you were invisible to everyone else.

#10.  It is not too late

*  No matter who you are,  no matter what you did,  no matter where you’ve come from,  you can always change and become a better version of yourself!

Strive for that!