4 Quick Stress Reducing Tips


It it does not matter what age, sex, physical condition or ethnicity you are - STRESS can KILL you!

Stress provides equal opportunities for stroke, heart attack, ulcers and a whole host of physical problems.  We are constantly being stressed these days and our immune systems are compromised.

It is usually a low-grade type of stress and often we do not even realize we are stressed,  yet we are not as happy, joyful and vibrant as we should be.

Here are a few stress reducing techniques that can serve you well.

1.  Exercise:

The LACK of physical exercise causes stress,  in the mind as well as in the body.

The human body is not designed to be sedentary. The body systems do not work correctly when we do not exercise.  So try a brisk walk for 30 minutes at least five times a week,  preferably somewhere in nature.

If you are over 50 and you’ve been inactive for a lengthy period of time,  do not start a rigorous exercise program without first getting the blessing of your doctor.

You will be surprised at how much exercise will make you feel physically as well as emotionally.

2.  Rest:

Keeping regular hours of going to bed and getting up at the same time each and every 24-hour period will not only reduce your stress level,  but it will make your waking hours far more productive.

Research has showed that you need about 7 to 8 hours of sleep for the immune system to work properly.  Sleep deprivation causes STRESS and stress will kill you if you left unchecked!

3.  Eat a healthy diet:

Eat lots of fruits and vegetables.  Choose whole grains as often as possible.  Choose chicken and fish more often that you choose red meat.

Decrease your intake of sugar.  You will find that when your digestive system feels better,  you’ll feel better inside and out.

4.  Take time for yourself:

We live in a hurry-hurry world and never seem to take the pressure off of ourselves.  So give yourself a break and relax!

Here’s one clinically proven technique I have shared with my coaching clients that will lower your stress and instantly relax you…

Breathe in through your nose slowly and through the belly.

Feel your abdomen expand….then slowly exhale through the mouth.

Do that for a couple of minutes.

Simply breathe .

Reading a book or listening to soothing music can also help you reduce stress.

Relax occasionally - do it on purpose! You owe it to yourself!


8 Things Positive Thinkers Never Do









Finding the road to living life fully isn’t just about adding things to your life,  but it is also about saying ‘NO’ to certain things.  Breaking certain habits and/or stopping certain activities sometimes can be more challenging than learning to incorporate something new into your routine.  By eliminating the following activities, thoughts and attitudes from your life,  you will experience drastic improvements in your quality of life.

1.  Play Victim:

When you take a hold of your thoughts and actions,  it all of a sudden becomes a lot more difficult to blame others for your problems.  Positive thinkers tend to take charge of their destiny,  so when they mess up they have no problem taking blame for the consequences.  As a bonus,  by not focusing on people or events that may have unjustly impacted their lives negatively,  they can focus on moving forward.

2.  Not Show Gratitude:

Appreciation for the small things is what helps build a positive attitude in the first place.  It is hard to be depressed when you realize the wonders of electricity,  the internet technologies or indoor plumbing that were not around all that long ago.  There also are the timeless things to be grateful for like love, nature or friendship.

3.  Dwell On Negative Thoughts

Even positive thinkers occasionally have a negative thought pop up in their head,  because no one can only think 100% positive thoughts all of the time.  How they handle these negative thoughts is what sets them apart.  Instead of dwelling on the same negative thought over and over again,  positive thinkers will acknowledge the negative thought,  correct it and move on.  For example:  if someone who thinks positively most of the time thinks ” I’m really having a bad day today”  will not repeat that thought.  Instead they will think of all the good things that happened today or try to make the day better.

4.  Engage in Destructive Behavior

Positive thinkers tend to be focused on small steps to get to their larger goals so they tend to steer away from activities that impede their progress.  Eating too much, drinking too much and sleeping too little just aren’t things to do when everyday is considered to be an opportunity to enrich and improve your life.

5.  Hang Around a Negative Crowd

When you think positively,  the people who are always hating,  nay saying and all of that are just so tiring to be around.  Who wants to sit around listening to others whine about their troubles all of the time?  If these people are so cynical and pessimistic,  why aren’t they out doing something about their lives or the world rather than sitting and jabbering about it?

6.  Give upon what is important

Being a positive thinker does not mean NEVER giving up,  but it does mean not giving up on things that are important.  When you focus your mind towards a goal every single day,  giving up just becomes a non-option.

7.  Flail around aimlessly

Positive thinkers have a tendency to focus their mind towards progress, so they do not spend a lot of time lolly grabbing around.  Unless the goal is to take time to relax and do nothing,  positive thinkers work towards achieving their dreams rather than spending each day wondering aimlessly.

8.  Stress about Imaginary Scenarios

What is the point of worrying about something that isn’t even  happened yet or probably will never happen?  When you have a positive outlook on life,  you soon realize that the boogie man isn’t out to get you,  and even if he is,  it is a waste of time worrying about it!





Why Change is So Hard


Let’s face it - we all resist change.

We all cling to the status quo even if the status quo isn’t all that great.  Why?

It is easy - we ALL fear change….  We fear the unknown.

We all have a thermostat in our brain that want to keep us in our comfort zone in order to avoid anything that might be painful.  Our comfort zone keeps us stuck at a certain level that we get used to,  even if we were unhappy or feel stuck.

Yet,  despite the terrible price we pay,  we don’t leave the comfort zone.  Why is that?

Why do we resist change even though we know in our hearts that change is inevitable?  Because the moment we step out of the familiar,  we are in the unknown.  We are also help there by our need for immediate gratification.  The comfort zone makes us feel good in the moment.

Some of us get to a point in life where we think ‘ life is good…..I like where I am….so STOP it right here’.  It is easy to think “Who cares what the future consequences will be?’

The problem is,  you’ll eventually have to pay the consequence of experiencing the worse pain of all – the knowledge that you have wasted your life!

Accepting the fact of life that life DOES change whether we want it to or not is the first step in helping yourself to accept the other fact - all change is NOT bad.

Oh,  I sure admit that change can sometimes be scary.  Some changes can disrupt your sleep pattern,  make you overeat and wreak havoc with your personal relationships,  among other things.

But if we learn to look at change as the inevitable excitement of life and if we quit being so fearful of the unknown and learn to delay instant gratification,  we can avoid a lot of the stress and anxiety that change throws our way.

Having the courage to go into the unknown and act in the face of fear allows you to tap into limitless possibilities.

Accepting change with a positive outlook can make even the most drastic changes easier.   Drawing on your own past experiences of change can also help.  Maybe you thought the worst would surely happen when there have been changes in your life in the past,  only to discover that the change actually made life better in some ways.

It’s true that sometimes there’s no apparent silver lining to major life changes,  but it is also true that all of life’s changes are not BAD,  either.

Do not struggle with change,  rather accept it and be open to it and  free yourself from the fears that are holding you back from achieving what you want in life!


8 Reasons to Forgive


  • 1.  Forgiveness allows us to take responsibility for our own happiness.
  • 2.  Forgiveness allows us to see everyone in our lives as a teacher.
  • 3.  Forgiveness makes us aware that people are doing the best they can.
  • 4.  Forgiveness forces our own level of consciousness to expand.
  • 5.  Forgiveness teaches us to keep our expectations tempered.
  • 6.  Forgiveness teaches us to tone down our instincts for self preservation.
  • 7.  Forgiveness creates a space to let go and love.
  • 8.  Forgiveness is a healing force and can benefit your health.

10 Things You Must Tell Yourself Today


#1:  I am fighting hard for the things I want most

*  The longer you have to wait for something,  the more you will appreciate it when it finally arrives.

*  Most great things don’t come easy,  but they are worth waiting for and fighting for.

#2:  I am taking action now

*  Many great things can be done in a day if you don’t always make that day tomorrow!

#3:  I am focusing on the next positive step

*  The future holds nothing but endless potential.

*  There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.

#4:  I am proud to wear my truth

*  How you see yourself means everything.

*  To be beautiful means to live confidently in your own skin.

#5:  I have a lot to smile about

*  Happiness is not a result of getting something you don’t have,  but rather of recognizing and appreciating what you do have.

#6:  I am making the best of it

*  Everything you go through grows you.

*  Amazing things can and do happen when you least expect them.

#7:  I am letting go of yesterday’s stress

*  Leave behind the stress,  the drama and the worries.  Lay this day to rest.

*  Tomorrow is about hope,  new possibilities and the opportunity to make a better day.

#8:  There is enough time today to do something I love doing

*  You will find happiness in doing the things you love to do –  set time aside to do it.

#9:  I am priceless in someone’s  eyes

*  Focus on those who love and accept you for who you are and shower them with the love and kindness they deserve.

*  Cherish the people who saw you when you were invisible to everyone else.

#10.  It is not too late

*  No matter who you are,  no matter what you did,  no matter where you’ve come from,  you can always change and become a better version of yourself!

Strive for that!



Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and the readiness to show appreciation for it and to return kindness.  It means that you are feeling pleased with something and with the results thereof.

” If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in

every situation,  you will discover that your life will

suddenly be filled with gratitude, 

a feeling that nurtures the soul”  Rabbi Harold Kushner

Just by saying the word GRATITUDE,   I start to feel that my body, my heart and whole being opens up and start to relax.  Gratitude is the state of openness –  it means your heart opens up to love, joy and peace.  Gratitude opens up a door so that we can reconnect with our aliveness,  our Source of Life Force.  You become aware of your connection with your inner Source of wellbeing and you start to feel more positive energy, love and appreciation towards yourself and others.

“Let us rise up and be thankful,  for if we didn’t learn a lot today,

at least we learned a little,  and if we didn’t learn a little,

at least we didn’t get sick,  and if we got sick,

at least we didn’t die;

so,  let us all be thankful”    Buddha